Somewhere in the past eight plus years that I’ve been regularly blogging, I started to include far more quotes from other authors and reduced my own thoughts on a topic. I’ve been known to quote entire articles available from other authors, and I always give credit and links to those authors and articles. I could just make a note in my blog posts to the titles and authors of those articles, but if you’re like me and you read a lot on online (whether in blog posts or on other websites or social media), when an author links to other articles online most of the time we (the readers) skip over those links and never or rarely end up going back to check them out.
When I run across articles online by other authors that I think are very much worth noting, I’ll post those articles on my blog post–not because I’m trying to plagiarize them, but because I want to share them with my readers. And, I know from my own propensity to not take the time to click on links in other blog posts (or websites) unless my curiosity is mightily piqued, I’ll just skip over the link and not take the time to “go there.” Hence, that is my reason for including large portions of blog posts and articles written by others in my blog posts.
With that being said, today is Thanksgiving Day here in America, and I just ran across the following article published two days ago on November 20, 2018, in The Washington Post titled, “Find Your Gratitude This Thanksgiving. Here’s How,” by Kristin Clark Taylor, author, freelance editor and journalist, motivational speaker and lecturer, and a former White House communications strategist. She is also the founder and facilitator of the popular Great Falls Writers Group. In her article she writes:
Thanksgiving is the day that gives gratitude a good name.
Golden turkeys will be admired, platters will be passed. And when it comes your turn at the dining room table to sit up and announce the one thing you’re most grateful for, try not to say the same thing as last year. It might be easy to do a repeat, but that’s kind of cheating.
I get it, gratitude might not be at the forefront for you right now.
Most of us are either preparing food today, preparing to travel — or both. We might be steeling ourselves for high-running family emotions. (Family and politics, anyone?) Tensions are taut just about everywhere, and as family members file through that front door, what often blows in with them is the angst that comes from having lots of folks under one roof who don’t always see eye-to-eye. Somebody’s going to say or do something that upsets someone else.
Gratitude gets crowded out.
But here’s the thing: When things go haywire, that’s when we need gratitude more than ever. My relationship with it has evolved over the years, and today it actually defines my life. I carry it around with me as a constant companion. Many times — particularly during my darkest moments — it carries me.
I need it to survive.
That’s how gratitude is. You have to develop a relationship with it, perhaps even a dependence on it, in your own daily life in a way that is deeply personal and only yours (imagine a fingerprint) — but you have to be able to share it, too, (imagine an outstretched hand).
It’s a two-step process, really: You generate gratitude from within — and in my case, from above — then push it back out into the world.
Simple? Yes. Easy? No. It requires energy, discipline and perseverance. Practiced regularly and constantly, grateful living can become an attitude rather than an action, an instinct rather than an exercise. But it requires a sustained connection. It cannot just be a fling. It cannot just be dragged out and dusted off on Turkey Day.
Thankfulness is much more than a warm-and-fuzzy feeling. It’s a purposeful process that requires a push every now and then to remain vibrant; a gentle shove, from time to time, to maintain its momentum. Left alone and untended, it can get lazy and leave.
When the sun sets on this Thanksgiving Day, try not to allow your sense of gratitude and appreciation to set with it. When you wake up Friday morning, search for new ways to remain committed.
Search for gratitude in new places. Find it in the hidden corners and unexplored pockets of your daily life that you’ve never noticed before. It’s there, I promise — and the darkened corners are often the best places to search. (It’s said that the light of hope shines brightest in the dark.)
Today, I offer up a little platter of tips and techniques that might help. I practice them daily, constantly. They keep me centered.
Some of them might sound a little silly, but I see this as a good thing because although the pursuit of gratitude is serious business indeed, the process itself should be simple and joyful. Smiles should be involved. Laughter should be invoked.
10-Toe Gratitude: Throughout each and every day, I check in with my body, just to whisper a thank-you, to my heart that beats, my lungs that breathe, my fingers that type. During evening yoga (downward dog is the perfect place) I say thank you to each of my 10 toes. Toes work hard and are grossly underappreciated. I love my toes and am grateful to have them.
Similarly, when I’m writing (which is often because it’s what I do for a living), I often pause to touch my wrist, find my pulse, and send a jolt of purposeful gratitude to the blood that flows through my veins. To embrace the very miracles that are constantly unfolding within us is right and necessary. I like to call it vital acknowledgment.
Double-Barreled Gratitude: Some people keep a daily gratitude journal that describes all the things we’re thankful to have (i.e., health, family, fresh cilantro). It’s easy and automatic to express gratitude for all that has been given to us, but what about the flip side?
I’m as grateful for the absence of a toothache as I am for the presence of fresh ginger root in my refrigerator; as grateful for the absence of a desire to drink as I am for the presence of my daughter’s quiet smile. Absence itself has a powerful presence.
If you keep a gratitude journal, try expanding it for a day or two and take the double-barreled route. Create a list that’s made up of two columns, one labeled “Presence,” the other “Absence.” Train your brain to assign value to the absences in your life, too. It will expand your perspective in unimaginable ways.
Kitchen Floor Gratitude: Many years ago, I tripped in my kitchen and twisted my ankle badly. At precisely the same moment my brain perceived the pain, a deep and sudden rush of gratitude rushed in.
As I lay sprawled on my kitchen floor, a miraculous dichotomy unfolded: In the midst of our pain, gratitude can find a home. Translated: My ankle hurts like hell but thank God it isn’t broken.
Brown-is-Beautiful Gratitude: From a very early age, my mother taught me to seek the sacred within the ordinary. I remember sitting in the backyard with my mother one summer afternoon just after a rainstorm, when a brilliant rainbow appeared.
After we admired it for a few minutes, she picked up a brown rock and placed it gently into my little hands. “This plain old brown rock is every bit as spectacular as that beautiful rainbow,” she said softly. “Be equally thankful for both.” Tip: Next time you see a stunning sunset, also remember to reach down and embrace the beauty of the brown rock. Be as thankful for the ordinary as you are for the spectacular.
As you sit down to dinner this Thanksgiving, don’t forget that exploring and expressing your own gratitude can be a constant pursuit, not a one-day affair. Not just today, but every day. So seek it. Find it. Pass it along.
We need it now more than ever. (Quote source here.)
First Thessalonians 5:16-18 states, “Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” Being a part of the human race, we know that it’s not often easy to “rejoice always, pray without ceasing, and give thanks in all circumstances.” The tragedies of life are constantly broadcast on the news on any given day, not to mention the things that we personally experience in our own lives. Rejoice? Pray without ceasing? Give thanks in all circumstances? It’s not easy, and sometimes it seems impossible.
It helps if we understand the concept of “praying without ceasing.” In a blog post titled, “Pray Without Ceasing,” on AllAboutPrayer.org (a specific author is not mentioned), the post states the following:
How to pray without ceasing — a heart attitude
- How does one pray continually? We cannot always be on our knees. With the daily demands on our busy lives, we are fortunate to kneel in prayer even a few minutes each day. However, the context of this passage gives us a clue. This passage focuses on heart attitude. “Rejoice always” is an attitude of joyfulness. Giving thanks in everything also requires a mental attitude of thankfulness. How do we rejoice and give thanks? Through prayer! Therefore, effective prayer is a proper heart attitude: a mental outlook of joyful thanksgiving. It expresses itself throughout the day with silent prayers of vital communication with the LORD.
- Maintaining a healthy relationship requires communication. Always be “on line” with God so when the Spirit moves you to pray, you can instantly agree with Him. The Holy Spirit prays for us with inexpressible groans (Romans 8:26). When in agreement with the Spirit, we are praying continuously. The heart attitude of praying without ceasing means an ever-open heart to the Lord’s leading.
- If we are praying without ceasing–even while driving, changing the baby, washing dishes, or running a lawn mower–we can be open to the leading of the Spirit when He urges us to pray for something or someone. At that time, we can agree with God and make a mental note to add that concern to our later prayer time.
- Praying without ceasing doesn’t take the place of time alone in prayer with God. However, it is a joyful experience to unite with the LORD who lays burdens on our hearts. We can’t always stop and kneel, but our heart attitude can still be “praying without ceasing.” (Quote source here.)
I have found that the more I give back to God my personal expectations in any given situation or set of circumstances, and leave the outcome for God to decide and not for me to try to coerce God into doing for me, there is a “peace that surpasses all understanding” (Philippians 4:7) that comes from that total relinquishment of me trying to control the outcome when I pray (you know, like begging God to do something to change that we don’t like), especially in trying situations that never seem to end.
So, on this Thanksgiving Day 2018, as Kristin Clark Taylor reminds us to do in her article above, let us be in a constant pursuit of gratitude (regardless of our circumstances), not just today, but every day . . .
So seek it . . .
Find it . . .
And pass it along . . . .
YouTube Video: “It’s Gonna Be Okay” by The Piano Guys: